Mommy Cadaver

Generally, I think Jenee’s FYI articles in the Star are rather poor in content and theme. But, since this one’s about our friends Eanna (aka Abra Cadaver), Brian and their newborn, Finn Cutty, I had to cut and share (didn’t want to link ’cause I think you probably have to register):

Posted on Sat, Aug. 26, 2006

COMMENTARY

Giving birth gives mom a new life

JENEE’ OSTERHELDT
The Kansas City Star

She was always a rock star to me.

I met her two years ago at “The Gun and Knife Show” at Fahrenheit Gallery. She was dressed as a BB gun-toting assassin with shimmering blond hair slicked back and a mischievous smile painted red. I liked her right away.

Slowly, I came to call Eanna Clark my friend. She starts the party when she walks through the door with the slightest flash of that smile. She’s effortlessly cool. She’s a member of the KC Roller Warriors, jokes about eating puppies for breakfast and it’s no shock when she starts firecracker fights on the Fourth of July.

The surprise came when she got pregnant. Suddenly, the fearless Eanna was scared and excited and changed forever.

Eanna, 23, says pregnancy gave her patience, made her selfless and tested her strength.

“I am one of the most impatient people I know, and waiting nine months to meet someone is the ultimate test of patience,” she says. “There is no amount of charm or no person you can know that will help move the process along faster.”

Her wait ended about two weeks ago when Finnigan Cutty Holton was born, a boy with the lightest brown skin and prettiest green eyes.

Although he’s the newborn, there is something new about Eanna, too. Sure, the changes were gradual. She and her fiance, Brian, grew inseparable. They slowed down the partying, and they stopped drinking. Eanna was a lot more like apple pie and less like steel nails.

And her smile is different. It’s filled with warmth and comfort. I see my friend jam-packed with joy, the kind that overflows to everyone around.

My rock star is a mommy now.

“He is the most successful thing I have ever done,” she says of Finnigan. “For the first time I have to put someone else before me, and the weird part is that I want to. Before I only lived for me, I wasn’t required to be anything less than selfish. Now, his priorities are my priorities; he eats before I eat.

“I don’t waste time being angry anymore, getting mad about rush-hour traffic or bad service, it all seems silly now. Instead of being ticked about some guy who cut me off on the highway, I just look at Finn. People say children stop your life, and they do in a way. But it’s like you stop, re-evaluate and redirect. My life has changed in a good way.”

Now more than ever, Eanna is determined to reach her goals.

“I am motivated to succeed and be who I always wanted to be, so that he can grow up and know that he has to do the same thing. I have to make choices he can respect. I have someone watching how I live now.”

When she looks at her life a year ago, she is amazed.

“I think this is the dream I dreamt when I thought of how I wanted my life to be. Everything fell into place. Finally, I feel in place.”

We took RAP to roller derby Saturday night where he got to meet Finn for the first time.

go kcrw!

Mommy Cadaver

Become a Warrior

KC Roller Warriors, Kansas City’s all female flat-track roller derby league, is recruiting new skaters.  Women 18 and older are invited to attend a Skate Clinic on Sat. Aug. 5th to find out more about joining the roller derby league.  Click on the link below for more information, or email snotrocket@kcrollerwarriors.com.
And forward this email to all the women in KC that you know!
Hugs and Bruises!
Become a Warrior

Weekend Wrewind

Friday night – went to Record Bar.
Goddam…I hope to have a review of the Black Clover Beer Fest up at patchchord.com here in a day or so and all I can say for now is good goddam.

Saturday night – took Josh to roller derby. Die Master let him try on the death mask.

Truly, though, after the first half, he kinda lost interest. So, maybe 6 is too young for a full derby bout. No matter though, because Sarah and I had a blast. She sat up front with a very pregnant Abra Cadaver while I chilled in the back keeping on eye on the little stinker.
Holy hell on wheels are the derby girls ever bad ass!
They’re having a bout at Hale Arena the day after my b-day. YOU. MUST. GO!
I heard from the sister of one of the cat’s promoting the Crossroads Arts and Music Fest that the event was a literal washout. The rains were so heavy and hard Saturday afternoon that Grinders’ backyard turned into a swamp. Anyone make it out?

Yesterday – bought some backerboard for our bathroom floor but decided to take the night off and relax. We watched His Girl Friday and Brokeback Mountain. I enjoyed Brokeback though it was super depressing. Probably woulda been cooler as a gay cowboy musical set on a Montana dude ranch. I could write that. Brokeback Mountain on Ice.

Weekend Wrewind

The Star shows some love to the Roller Warriors

Not a bad write-up…from yesterday’s FYI.

And, just to show you all how roller derby has blown up, check this list of U.S. city leagues:

Alamo City Rollergirls
Arch Rival Rollergirls
Arizona Derby Dames
Arizona Roller Derby
Assassination City Derby
Atlanta Rollergirls
Bay Area Derby Girls
Bakersfield Rollergirls
Boston Derby Dames
Carolina Rollergirls
Charm City Rollergirls
Chi-Town Sirens
Cleveland Rollergirls
Dallas Derby Devils
DC Rollergirls
Denver Roller Dolls
Detroit Derby Girls
Dixie Derby Girls
Dominion Derby Girls
Duke City Derby
East Texas Bombers
Fort Wayne Derby Girls
Gem City Rollergirls
Gotham Girls Roller Derby
Grand Raggidy Roller Girls
Greenville Rollergirls
Hurricane Alley Roller Derby
Houston Roller Derby
Kansas City Roller Warriors
Knoxville Roller Derby
L.A. Derby Dolls
Lancaster Rollergirls
Lehigh Valley Rollergirls
Lonestar Roller Derby
Long Island Roller Rebels
Mad Rollin’ Dolls
Memphis Roller Derby
Minnesota RollerGirls
No Coast Derby Girls
NorCal Rollergirls
Ohio Roller Girls
PA Roller Girls
Philly Roller Girls
Pikes Peak Derby Dames
Providence Roller Derby
Rat City Rollergirls
Renegade Rollergirls
Rocky Mountain Rollergirls
Rose City Rollers
Salt Lake City Derby Girls
Sin City Rollergirls
Spokane Roller Derby
Switchblade Rollers
Tally Rollergirls
Tampa Bay Derby Darlins
TC Rollers
Texas Rollergirls
Tragic City Rollers
Treasure Valley Rollergirls
Tucson Roller Derby
Windy City Rollers
Wichita Rollergirls

There’s so many teams, the girls had to make up cities to hold them.

The Star shows some love to the Roller Warriors